For Tracie Costin, a staff nurse I in the ambulatory med unit, getting married in ECU Health’s Healing Garden made perfect sense.
She and Matt Costin met at work; he was a nurse and she was a nursing assistant in a behavioral health unit in Wilmington, North Carolina. Eight years later, Matt proposed.
“He proposed in January 2025, and we were already planning a trip to Scotland and Ireland for September, so I said let’s get married Aug. 15 and the trip can be our honeymoon,” Tracie said. “We were going to get a magistrate to do it, but then we discovered the magistrate’s office is at the juvenile detention center,” Tracie laughed. “Matt and I didn’t want to get married there, but we only had a few months to figure out a new plan.”
After looking at a few other options, Tracie’s co-worker offered a solution.
“I was talking to a colleague at work, and she was the one who suggested we get married in the Healing Garden.”
The Healing Garden at ECU Health Medical Center’s Eddie and Jo Allison Smith Tower gives patients with cancer and their families a calm and relaxing outdoor space that incorporates babbling fountains, medicinal herbs and flowers and a tranquil place to sit and relax.
“My co-worker knew this place was special to me because of my brother, and the garden is gorgeous,” Tracie said. “I talked to my manager about it, and she confirmed we could get married there. That’s how it happened.”
A difficult diagnosis
Back in 2017, at about the same time Tracie and Matt started dating, Tracie’s brother – also Matt – was diagnosed with glioblastoma.
Tracie and her brother were close, and despite receiving the best of care at ECU Health’s Cancer Center, he wasn’t doing well. Tracie and Matt eventually moved to Ayden to be closer to family – especially Tracie’s brother.
“I was in nursing school in New Bern,” Tracie said. “Matt’s daughters lived in Plymouth, and my daughter lived in Wilmington. Both of our parents needed care, and my brother was nearing the end of his cancer treatments, but he was getting sicker and sicker. Ayden was a good halfway point for us.”
In April of 2022, Tracie’s sister-in-law, Kelly, called with news.
“New scans showed my brother’s cancer had returned on his brainstem, and there was nothing they could do,” Tracie said.
Tracie’s brother entered hospice, and she dropped out of nursing school to spend more time with him.
On June 10, Tracie and her family had spent the day at her brother’s house.
“Our mom, dad, me and everyone else had been there all day, and we were getting ready to go home,” Tracie recalled. “I noticed The Wizard of Oz was scheduled to be on TV that night at 9 p.m.
That movie was special to us; we watched it together at least once a year. It was something we did together. I promised him I would watch it at my house, and he could watch it at his.”
Back at home, Tracie watched the movie. Kelly called around 8 p.m. to let Tracie know that her brother’s breathing had changed, and just as the last movie credits rolled at 11 p.m., Kelly called again. Matt had passed away.
More than 300 people attended Matt’s funeral, and Tracie said she misses him every day.
“He was one of those people everyone loved,” she said. “He had a smile that lit up the room. I want to call him all the time, but the time I did have with him was precious. A lot of people don’t get that time.”
There’s no place like home
After her brother’s passing, Tracie returned to nursing school, and after graduation, she found a job at ECU Health Medical Center on 4 North, the TSIU. Her now-husband is also a nurse at the medical center in the rehabilitation department.
When a position opened in the cancer center’s outpatient infusion unit, Tracie said, “That’s where my brother went for so many years – I have to apply for this job.”
The same day she applied, Tracie was invited to an interview. When she mentioned her brother, they stopped in their tracks.
“They said, ‘We loved your brother,’” she said. “I knew that was true, because he loved those nurses and doctors. Matt used to talk about getting his treatments there, and how everyone was great. They kept him and Kelly going, even on the days he didn’t want to. Dr. Pam Lepera pushed for every treatment available. He lived for over five years when his prognosis was 14 months.”
That afternoon, they offered Tracie the job.
“Ever since I walked through those doors, I’ve felt at peace. I can’t describe it. The place felt like home”
Meant to be
On Aug. 15, 2025, Matt and Tracie, along with their daughters, gathered in the Healing Garden to exchange vows.
“When we finished the ceremony, we heard this knock on the window, and my whole nursing staff was there waving,” she said. “It was a perfect moment.”
Tracie said it felt right to get married in the Healing Garden, surrounded by people who cared for her brother while he received his cancer treatments.
“As cheesy as it seems, the way everything happened, from getting the job to us getting married – it’s like it was meant to be.”
It has also felt right to work in the cancer center and serve patients with cancer and their families.
“I feel like I’m a better nurse, a better caregiver, because of my experience with my brother,” she said.
“I can talk to the patients and comfort them because I know what they’re going through and how scared they are. I just love them and take care of them and their families. When I go to work, I say this is my place. Like Dorothy says, there’s no place like home.”